Archive for March, 2008

Baby-making according to the calendar

This month we’re kicking it old skool style and trying to conceive the old-fashioned way. You know…getting between the sheets in our own bed for a little tumble without a needle, speculum, or catheter in sight.

I’ve recovered from the laprascopy but the timing didn’t work to make this a “clinic month” so we’re left to our own devices. Back when we started this whole baby-making endeavour we had sex every other day between days 7 and 17 of my cycle. Now I know I don’t ovulate until day 14 at the earliest so I figured we didn’t need to start the ‘planned’ meet-ups until day 10. But turns out we ended up having some fun on the weekend anyway 😉

So last night hubby gives me the “wink wink nudge nudge” signal and yet again I find myself looking for a way to postpone until today without making it sound like all love-making has been scheduled according to the calendar. It’s a tricky thing as baby-making does require some planning and scheduling. But at the same time I hate to lose the ‘fun’ of it and make it seem like we’re just “sticking to the program”.

In the end I told him straight out that we’re in prime-time and 2 days in a row is a no-no but I’d be happy to meet him and his mister the next day. So now we’re both on the same page and we’re both good at counting so I’m sure it won’t be an ongoing issue. But if anyone has any ideas on how to keep the spark while sticking to the program I’m all ears!

March 5, 2008 at 2:17 pm Leave a comment

Laprascopy Follow Up Appointment Postponed

I was supposed to have my post-op appointment yesterday but the doctor had to reschedule. I’m still a couple of weeks away from getting my period and being ready to start a new cycle so I guess it doesn’t really matter. It will give me a couple more days to think of any more questions. Here’s my list so far:

  • Should we do another IUI cycle now that the endometriosis has been cleaned out? or jump right to IVF? I’ve read different views on this. Some say it’s best to jump right into IVF while your chances are the best and you feel strong.
  • With all 4 IUI cycles I’ve done I end up with just one follicle. I start with multiple follicles but one becomes dominant and the others don’t grow to maturity. So far I’ve tried Clomid and Bravelle. Does this mean 1 follicle is likely to happen with other medications? And what does that mean if we decide to try IVF?
  • If we want to do IVF how does that work? Do we start on day 3 like IUI cycles? How long is process on average from start to finish (I need to know what I’m in for!)
  • Thoughts on acupuncture. I’m becoming more and more interested in looking at alternative healthcare and integrating it into my reproductive efforts.
  • How much endometriosis was removed. I don’t have any sense of this at all. The doc told my hubby they removed 4 spots but I’d like to know if they were large, small, and whether size impacts odds of conceiving.

March 4, 2008 at 1:54 pm 1 comment

Infertility Survival Handbook – A Must Read

During my recovery from laparoscopy surgery I’ve had lots of time to read. I finished up the Infertility Survival Handbook written by Elizabeth Swire Falker and thoroughly enjoyed it. Thanks Stefanie for the referral!

Some parts were very specific to the USA and weren’t really that interesting to me, a Canadian. I could see how it would be useful to understand different health insurances and how to look for a clinic if you lived in the States. But it did make the book very US-centric and less helpful to international folks. Not a criticism by any means as that might have been the intent of the author, just pointing it out in case other non-US folks are thinking of picking it up.

I found the explanations of procedures really helpful, even the descriptions of tests I’ve already had. There’s something reassuring about reading an experience you’ve had and thinking “Yep, that’s exactly what it was like”. It gives me confidence that the descriptions of procedures I haven’t yet had are accurate.

I learned a lot about various blood tests that I haven’t undergone yet. I’m not sure if they’re commonly done up here but at least I know what to ask about now.

The best piece of advice I got was to create a ‘take care of me’ basket. The author has a different name for it (I’ve already returned the book to the library so I can’t look it up) but the idea is to prepare for your ART cycles by having things on hand that pamper, sooth, destress, and relax you. Two things I love about this:

  • It reminds me that it’s OK to feel like crap. Fertility drugs do take a toll and too often I try to keep going like normal and discount the affect they’re having on me.
  • Incorporating small pleasures into my days when I’m feeling like crap will be nice. Something to look forward to and a reminder to focus on me and my well-being.

I’m not sure when my next cycle will start but I’m already planning my take care of me basket!

March 3, 2008 at 10:28 pm 2 comments


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